The 3 Communication Crimes

• Communication Theft

• Real-world theft is "taking something which belongs to someone else without the owner's permission."

• Communication theft is "communicatively taking something which belongs to someone else without the owner's permission."

• For example, if my daughter tells me 15 minutes after dinner that she's hungry and I say, "No, you're not, you just ate!" — I have taken away from her the right to experience her own experience. That's communication theft.

• Communication Rape

• Real-world rape is "forcing another to have an experience of your selection, whether or not the other wants to have that experience."

• Communication rape is "forcing another to have a communication experience of your selection, whether or not the other wants to have that experience."

• For example, if I tell my girlfriend, "We're going to talk about this now, whether you're ready to discuss it or not!" — I have forced her to have a conversation on my terms, whether or not she wants to. That's communication rape.

• Communication Murder

• Real-world murder is "illegitimately making another human being be dead."

• Communication murder is "illegitimately making another human being be dead by communication means."

• For example, if I walk into a room and greet three of the four people who are there but ignore the fourth one — I have treated that fourth person as if he were dead. That's communication murder.

• Real-world criminals aren't always caught. Those who are caught don't always go to trial. Those who do go to trial aren't always convicted. Those who are convicted aren't always punished. Those who are punished don't always suffer. And the punishments for real-world crimes are varied.

• Communication criminals are always caught — sooner or later. They always go to trial — sooner or later. They are always convicted — sooner or later. They are always punished — sooner or later. They always suffer — sooner or later. And the punishment for communication crime is always the same: solitary confinement.

• If you can't do the time — don't do the crime!

 

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